Stop Saying “Boys Will Be Boys”

I hate that saying. “Boys will be boys”. What does it even mean?! I have two beautiful boys, they are 13 months apart in age, and lets face it, they can be a handful sometimes. Especially when they were toddlers. When they have acted out people have said to me “Boys will be boys”, as if to explain their behaviour, to make it ok, to excuse it. I don’t know. I haven’t had anyone say it to me in years, maybe because I have kicked up such a stink about it. Just because I have boys, just because these sweet humans happened to be born with a penis is not an excuse for bad behaviour, for throwing things, for being rude, or for what ever other activity would warrant a “boys will be boys” comment from someone.

Yes I have boys, boy who are growing into men, gentlemen! Boys who will grow to be adults one day and God willing will be polite, kind, generous, gentle, compassionate men. Men who will be responsible for their actions.

Two things happened last week that has brought this “boys will be boys” nonsense back to my attention.

1. I was out with my three kids. We were walking up the stairs instead of taking the elevator. My boys were playing, no big deal, one of my sons decided to race up the stairs. Just so happens that a lady was coming down. I stopped my son, told him to wait, and get behind me to leave enough space for the lady to pass. My son said sorry for almost running into her. What was her response “Don’t worry, boys will be boys. Thats just how boys are”.   Um, excuse me? What?! No! My child’s gender is not an excuse to act like a fool, be rude, run up the stairs and almost knock a person over. Boys, men, will never have an excuse to behave in that way. So please don’t tell my son is it ok to be rude and push past people on the stairs simply because he is a boy.

2. We had teacher / parent interviews last week. I asked my oldest sons teacher how he was in class, if he was organized. My son used to be very organized. I admit it has been slipping lately. We have had a lot going on and figured that maybe that had something to do with it. His teachers response “Boys will be boys”. When I asked him to explain he said “Boys just do this at this age. They don’t care. They become disorganized, its not something boys care about.” My son’s sarcastic response “See Mom, it is because I’m a boy, I’m allowed to be disorganized” Um?! No! I’m pretty sure my sons brain can handle writing in his agenda every day and it won’t hurt him. Boy or not, he can and will be organized and take care of his things!

I have been blessed with 3 beautiful boys. 3 beautiful boys that will one day grow into men. I am trying my damnedest to teach them that they are accountable for their actions, all their actions, big and small. I am teaching them to be polite, to be caring, to be kind. To be aware of their surroundings, and the people around them.

Just because 3 of my children were born with a penis does not give them green light to disrespect people, to not take pride in their work, and to not be organized.

So please stop saying “Boys will be boys”, by saying this you remove my child’s responsibility for his actions, you excuse his bad behaviour! My son’s are very much responsible for their actions, and they need to learn this now, so they know damn well when they are adults that they are responsible and that nothing will be written off as “boys will be boys”.

Boy or girl, my child is responsible for his/her actions. Don’t excuse and take away responsibility, just because someone has a penis!

~ Michelle


Technology vs Responsibility

I get it. Technology is pretty much everything right now. Everything is paperless. Most people carry around a smart phone with a calendar on it. My husband prefers his phone calendar. Me? I love my day-timer and my wall calendar. I love post-its and paper and sharpies and all that. My husband and I for the most part have managed to co-exist with our different ways, very few appointments have been missed.

But thats not really what I want to talk about today. It’s that EVERYTHING is going paperless lately; bills, letters, and now at my children’s school. And I HATE it.

There is no longer any responsibility put on kids to make sure they bring home important notes and paper work. Everything is on the school website or emailed to us. I hate it. I remember both dreading and loving when I got to bring home stuff. I was proud when I remembered something and didn’t lose anything. My kids? They don’t bring anything home now so they don’t get to experience that and learn.

And now my kids school has started an online thing were you have to email when your kid is sick. So no more talking to an actual human. No interaction whatsoever. Yes I am sure this cuts down on the phone calls the school gets during flu season, but still. Maybe it is the stay at home mom in me, but a little human interaction with an adult would be nice.

On top of that, they also started a program online so when you need to send money to school, again the kid is taken out the equation and no responsibility at all is placed on the child, the parent simply pays online. We can’t even send $1 into school with our child for popcorn day.

My children can also do their homework online and send it to their teacher. Again, no responsibility to make sure they bring home the homework, do the homework and then remember it in the morning! No extra responsibility at all.

Yes I see the upside, my kids will never lose an important paper, they won’t forget their homework at school, they won’t forget their homework at home, they won’t lose a field trip form and miss out on it, they won’t take money to school and risk the chance of losing that if they aren’t careful.

But I also see the downside, my kids will never learn simple responsibly because they will never lose an important paper – it will just get emailed to me, they won’t forget their homework at school because its online, they won’t get marks taken off their homework because they left it at home in their morning rush, they won’t miss out on a field trip because they won’t have to bring home the form, and as long as I pay online they won’t have the responsibility to cary around a couple dollars for pizza day which they may or may not lose if they had kept the money in their pocket and went running around playing at school.

Its all part of technology and our world it seems. So many things rely on the internet. I’m not against it, I don’t think machines will rise up one day and kill us all (SkyNet). But I don’t agree with technology taking away responsibility from my kids. Simple things that for a child are big things. Simple things that lead to bigger things.

~ Michelle

2 Years, The Countdown Is On

My kids are at school, and I am sitting at the kitchen table alone with my toddler while she nicely eats her lunch. Just kidding she’s playing with her food and most if it is on the floor already.

I can’t help but wonder… Now what? How long will this last? And what happens after?

My two boys are in school, already Grade 5 and Grade 4, and my daughter is already two and half. She will be going to school in 2 years. 2 short years.

The house is already eerily quiet without my boys here. But I love it, because I get one on one time with my daughter. But I can’t help but wondering… What happens after? After she goes to school?

I have been a stay at home mom for just over 10 years now, by the time my daughter starts school it will be 12 years. 12 years I have been home with little humans around me, to care for, to play with, clean up after, snuggle with, all day every day. But when my daughter starts school, thats it. She is my last baby. What will I do?

I have two businesses now as it is, Sugarplum And Applesauce , and my newest, Inspired By Five. Well 3 if you count this blog. For the first time ever I will actually be able to work without interruptions. But it is not the work I am wondering about. It is more about how I will spend my day without little humans around me all the time? How will it be to not be needed like that ever again? Not not have my day revolve around someone else?

I love having my kids home, but I also love sending them off to school and seeing them grow and blossom into their own individual special person.

But lets face it, going 12 years with someone always home with me, to having no one home will be a big change. And yes I know it is not for another 2 years, but 2 years in motherhood passes a lot faster than 2 years any where else! I can’t help thinking about it now. Maybe it is in attempt to prepare myself for it. Or so I can cherish this time that much more? I don’t know why, but I can’t stop thinking about it.

At some point every mom goes through this, its natural and unavoidable. But that doesn’t mean it is easy.

I know these next two years will pass by in a blur. A blur of snuggles, playing, reading, tantrums, play time, more tantrums and so much love.

I love my little humans and the time I have been given with them. It is so quick, but so jammed packed with awesomeness.

outdoor fun

~ Michelle

Back To School. Grade 5 & Grade 4.

My boys are back to school. Its hard to believe. The summer went by in a blur. I am still trying to wrap my head around the fact that I just sent my boys off to Grade 5 and Grade 4! I still remember those grades like they were yesterday! Especially Grade 5, a lot happened that year. I was living in Kenya. I met friends that are still in my life today. I had my appendix out. Which resulted in 3 hospital visits after that including another hospital stay.   I went on a school trip to Mt. Kenya, which resulted in one of the hospital visits and being sent home early. Good times.
And now here I am, the mother of a son in Grade 5 and another son in Grade 4.

I remember thinking when I was little that the days would just drag  on and on. But now, it is as if someone has push the fast forward button on my life. I’m not sure I am ready for this. Every time I feel like I have my kids figured out, they go and grow up and change on me. Always changing, always growing.

I wonder if my parents ever felt like this? If they did they never let on. Maybe they just had better poker faces that I do, or they just handled it all a lot better than I am.

Lets be real here for a minute. Completely honest. I am a complete wreck over how fast my kids are growing up. I don’t feel like I am handling it all that well. I am an emotional wreck. I feel like I am constantly playing catch up. Always just one step behind them. Just when I think I have it all figured out, they go and grow up a bit more, not a lot, just enjoy to change every single thing!

Something else, HOW AM I OLD ENOUGH TO HAVE KIDS IN GRADE 5 AND GRADE 4?! Ok… never mind lets not go there.

Back to the important thing here… My kids. School. Such a bitter sweet thing! I am so incredible proud of them! They are such awesome little humans. They love school. They do well in school. They behave in school! But they are growing too fast. I love watching them grow and reach new milestones, but does it have to happen so damn fast?! This mama isn’t fully prepared for it.

Time to pull up my big girl panties, and handle this like the mom boss that I am!

Onward and upward.

Forever changing and forever growing.

Now… If I could get people to stop telling me when my daughter will start school and talk about how quickly that is coming, that would be awesome!

~ Michelle

Moms Command Centre

Its that time of year again. Back to school.
Its a time filled with mixed emotions, excitement and anxiety. But mostly for me its a time to reorganize after a summer of fun.
I want to share with you a “Command Centre” I made up a couple of years ago.
Want your own Command Centre?
Start off with a wall with a lot of space that is in a room in your house that you will be in every day. I picked my kitchen.


Next you will need a calendar. I LOVE the Ultimate Mom Calendar. Its all sorts of awesome. It is huge so there is tons of space for writing down appointments and notes and anything else you may need to write down.

Next I find a white board/ cork board / chalk board works wonders.
Or if you are like me, all 3. Because, why not?

I found this beauty of a chalk board while out on a drive with my hubby at some handmade store we passed by. I’m in love with it.


( I love the message the kids put on it).

Put all these pieces together, and Ta-Da! A Command Centre for the school year!


The chalk board is used for meal lists, and to-do lists for mom and dad and to hold mail.
Calendar is for the family.
The cork board and white board at the end is for the boys. Reminders for school, pin up paper work and such.

Now to stay on top of the school year and all the kids projects, deadlines and appointments!

Back To Reality

Hello New Day.
Hello New Week.
Hello New Month.
Hello New School Year!
Hello New Adventure!


It is Monday again. Only something is different this year. Oh right, its back to school tomorrow!

Who else is excited? I am. I love my kids. But I also love when they are in school, mostly because they love school so much and I love that.

So what does back to school mean for this week? Well it means endless time for me to relax, stay in bed, watch tv, read, paint my nails, sleep the day away… Oh wait. I have a 17 month old and a never-ending To-Do List. Guess all that other stuff will have to wait.

This week is all about getting back into routine for my boys and the rest of the family. I am excited. See I am a complex creature, I love routine, till I get in a funk, then I like randomness, then I get frazzled and crave routine again. I’ve reached that point, I am highly looking forward to routine.

My goals for this week are:


1. Get everyone back on routine. Lunches made the night before school. Homework time.
2. Survive the first week of school.


3. Have everyone make sure there stuff is all ready the night before school/work.
4. Find time to still read together at bed time.
5. Prepare the family calendar, and make sure it is up to date.


6. Eat healthy. I do tend to eat healthy, but there is room for improvement. No more soda!
7. Learn to take time for myself and not feel guilty about it. Seriously. I am horrible about this.
8. Workout. Not just Zumba. Mix it up with something else.


9. Still working on over coming those darn fears. This may take some time. But I am working on it, taking baby steps.
10. Set out a calendar, and schedule time to work, and then actually do it.

Now if I will be able to sleep tonight. I think I get as many butterflies in my stomach, if not more, than my kids before school starts. It is such a mix of emotions. I know my boys love school, and that makes me happy. But I am also a bit nervous and worry, I know there can be mean people in this world and that as hard as I try I cannot protect my kids from them, especially when those mean people are kids at school. I have to trust in the school, and trust that my children are safe and surrounded by good people.

Let the picking of first day of school outfits start…for the kids, not me!

~ Michelle

Ending of Chapter 8

Hello New Day.
Hello New Week.
Hello New Adventure.
Goodbye August, until next year.


I can not believe how fast this year has gone by, especially this summer. My daughter is already 17 months, my boys are 9 and 8 years old, and my son that I gave up for adoption is now 13! Everyone is growing up too fast for my liking. Even my dog is celebrating her 15th birthday today. Yes I know my dogs birthday, don’t judge.

The end of August also means that it’s almost school time. This is so bitter-sweet for me. I love when my kids go to school, I love how excited they are about it, I love watching them do homework, I love watching them as they tell me all the new things they learned. And I will fully admit, I love the break. Now don’t go thinking I am a bad mom or something. I do miss my kids when they are at school, but I also like having the house around a normal noise level, and its nice that it stays clean for more than a few minutes at a time with out 3 kids running around.

This week should be interesting, my goals for the week are:


1. Get organized. Finish the final touches on my “command centre” that I made in my kitchen.
2. Meal plan, stick to it. Seriously this sounds easy enough, but this past week my daughter has been teething, and I’ve been fighting off a sore throat that by dinner time my energy is gone. I’m finally feeling more like myself, so I am determined to stick to my list this week.
3. Read together. Long summer days and late summer nights have kept us busy. We haven’t been reading as much as I would like, or even the boys would like, so back to reality.


4. Clean and organize the front hall and front hall closet. Its turned into a disaster over the summer.
5. Basically do an end of summer purge, clean and organization of the whole house!


6. Read. I actually read a whole book, one whole book this summer and it was so wonderful. I read “The Girl on The Train” and loved it! So any other recommendations would be wonderful!
7. Write. Journal. Write some more. Journal some more. Write just for the sake of writing. It can be such an emotional release, I really don’t know why I don’t make time to do it more often.
8. Workout. Last week I finally started wearing my Fitbit again, and of course I get sick. So this week its time to kick it up a notch. My plan this week on top of working out is to also hit 30 mins of active minutes, at least, a day on my Fitbit.


9. Organize my desk, and my thoughts. Maybe they will go hand in hand. Maybe once my desk is organized my thoughts will be able to be organized.
10. Take chances. Get over my stupid fears.

What are you hoping to accomplish this week? Are you on a mad dash to finish back to school shopping? 

~ Michelle

Lets Get Organized

Hello New Day.
Hello New Week.
Hello New Adventure.
Hello Summer Vacation!


Well it is finally here! The last week of school! I’m so excited for this summer. Last summer I couldn’t do much since I was recovering from a c-section and had my new-born daughter to care for. But this summer, this summer is going to be awesome. My daughter is on the move, walk and loves to explore and play outside. The thoughts of warm summer days outside in the sunshine while the kids play just sound so blissful.

So here are my goals for this last week of school.


1. Come up with a plan for summer! Make a bucket list. Have pre-planned activities.
2. Go through all the school they have brought home over the school year and sort it out.
3. Meal plan!


4. Get organized. Because naturally when busy getting ready for summer I decide to take on another project.
5. Workout. Must workout. 4-5 times. I always feel better after working out, my happy level is off the charts after working out.
6. Read! Enjoy the last few quiet moments while the boys are at school!


7. Keep the house clean! Set a timer before bed for 15 minutes and have everyone help tidy up.
8. Set up a chores chart for the kids for the summer.


9. Get organized. This goes in part with the personal goal I have. I need to get organized in all aspects of my life.
10. Learn to take more risks.

So as you can see my goal for this week is to get Organized! How do you stay organized? Do you write lists every day? Have a binder of some sort? Have lists up and printed and put up in the house? Any help would be greatly appreciated!

How do you get ready for Summer Vacation with your kids? 
Do you have any goals for this week? 

~ Michelle